Celebrating your authentic self is essential for conflict resolution communication mastery.
Welcome To The Last Secret in 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication
SECRET #7 - CELEBRATE YOU!
Are you one of those people-pleasing women who puts everyone first? Do you have trouble carving out time for yourself? Maybe deep down you're wondering why others seem to shine and feel like something is terribly lacking in your life.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
~ From A Return To Love, by Marianne Williamson
When we mask our brilliance from ourselves and from others we risk losing our sense of self and who we truly are. We are so familiar with communicating from "The Ugh Syndrome," "The Boxing Glove Syndrome," or "The People Pleaser Syndrome" that sooner or later we get lost in the shuffle. The only way to Celebrate You is to unmask YOU and own your radiant self, even when you feel fat, bloated and wrinkled. Somewhere, behind your mask is that brilliant lighthouse of wisdom and unique cocktail of gifts that only you have.
How can we imagine to Master Communication when we aren't showing up authentically, vulnerable, confident and trusting?
If you aren't showing up in life as the gorgeous, talented and fabulous brilliant you, then who is standing in for you in your life and relationships?
Steps to Mastering Communication And Celebrating You!
Where in your life past and present have you played or been playing the leading roles? Make two columns. Think of every aspect and let go of judgment. With uncensored shameless gusto, list in the left column all your magnificent accomplishments, big, small and in between. Enjoy remembering with your mind, body and spirit your own excellence. In the right column next to each fantastic moment, write down everything you felt. I encourage you to take full-fledged bragging rights and toot your own horn. Personally, I know that you will have a long list of things to be proud of and celebrate.
Geez, I'm already proud of you just thinking about it!
Where in your life have you hidden out behind your mask. Set up 2 vertical columns and on the left, write down all the lace you have been a stand-in for your own leading role. Next to each one, write down how it felt. Be brutally honest. Were you justifying anything with reasons and excuses? Were you being a people pleaser, afraid to say NO when your heat wasn't in it? I'm not talking about those moments where we willing and authentically agree to do something we may not enjoy out of integrity, service or commitment to a higher purpose. I'm talking about begrudgingly giving into someone out of fear of being rejected, not being liked or our own unbridled need to be needed. You get the idea.
Who are you being true to? Pick the TRUE YOU to Celebrate. I know who you'll pick!
Be grateful for, honor and own the YOU who ahs sometimes shown up in the shadows, afraid and small, because you have learned tremendous life lessons from her or him. That is your inner critic, the head of your Internal Chain Of Command and she's not going anywhere fast but now you can recognize her voice and reassure her that you are quite capable of handling things in the spotlight or behind the curtain of your own life. Remember every great performance also has a great director and stage crew. Your stage crew is your higher wisdom.
Celebrate Glorious You. I could give you a long list of suggestions but I'm sure you have all the creativity needed to have a most joyous celebration of you.
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