Lighthearted Vs. Intense. Oh, Those Dating Site Questions!


Lighthearted Vs. Intense. Oh, Those Dating Site Questions!
How hard can it be to answer this kind of question on a dating site? Harder than you think for some!

Intensity isn’t being overly serious. It’s taking the bull by the horns to get what you desire. It’s being unstoppable, bodacious and focused. It’s having a thirst for adventure, knowledge and new experiences. It’s what fuels the adventurer and keeps the fire in your belly. It’s living life with gusto and owning your quirkiness.

The answer I prefer is a light-hearted and intense passionista. I let people know in advance that if I become too intense and they feel their eyes glazing over, it’s perfectly okay to give me a gentle poke, a distracting kiss, or just say, ‘Hey Funny Girl, we love you and you’re going over the top again.”

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I’m lighthearted enough, really I am, to throw off the labels and just be happy being me.

Are you lighthearted or intense? how do you feel about this kind of question? Share with us by leaving a comment below.

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