Mr. and Mrs. Claus kicked the blame game, victimhood and the need to be right to the curb ages ago in favor of authentic communication spiced with some good humor. They know what matters in a relationship and it isn’t having the last word.
5. Quit being so nice! Be a little naughty and get real! Were you naughty or nice this year? Are you too nice instead of being real because it feels a little bit too naughty according to what Mom taught you about being a good little boy or girl?
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If you said, yes, then you might be falling into a real booby trap bound to backfire sooner or later. Rationalizing everything, being a people pleaser and overly tolerant of everyone and everything is like getting used to walking around with a pebble in your Ugg boots. After a while you don't even realize that you're limping around saying 'yes' when you really mean 'no' or bending over backwards to be the people pleaser in all your relationships.
Take it from Santa: Real compatibility happens between two people who are authentic without the need to please everyone and who get real with their boundaries. What's more, they probably have a fairly high dose of naughtiness when it comes to keeping the peace after those inevitable disagreements!
Santa's top New Year's recommendation: Get real and authentic. Before you make any more New Year's resolutions that you probably won't keep, take Deb's Compatibility Index either on your own or together with your partner and find out how just how compatible you really are! Knowing what makes each other tick is the best gift you can give yourself and your relationship.
Happy holidays to all and a sizzling, sexy good night!
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