Guys – and women, too -- may be clueless about giving gifts and that only means they do not have any clear ideas from you about what you want. Clueless doesn’t mean stupid, thoughtless or not loving. Many men I have spoken to complain that women think they are mind readers. A lot of men are really good at picking up tips and cues from women, remembering they mentioned a favorite restaurant to go to or their favorite perfume, but it that enough to go on for a successful Valentine’s Day, whatever successful means! Imagine how hard it must be for him to buy a gift, especially if he feels an obligation to do so, that he thinks or hopes you’ll love when he really doesn’t have a clue and then he realizes that he is completely wrong. He’s disappointed and so are you. This all goes back to having the conversation about how you celebrate holidays. I get it. It may not sound romantic to talk about it all, but how romantic is unnecessary disappointment?
All of these scenarios are easily avoidable. If disappointment starts to set in on February 15th, remember these tips about giving and receiving, expectations and beliefs, and that romance is there for you if you believe in it. It starts with loving you first.
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