If you want to have a really healthy mind, feed it good stuff -- stimulating reading material, uplifting and inspirational music, challenging conversation about major topics, and time to reflect. And exercise it. Take on some fascinating new reading material about subjects that at first glance seem too much for you. Join some new groups that tax you to your edges. Keep trying new things. As your mind grows bigger and stronger, your sex appeal will literally multiply.
And then we get to the real secret of sex appeal! You may think I'm exaggerating, but 60 percent of lasting sex appeal is all about your soul. There are just three things I hope you will do to get your soul healthy. First, get to know it. Go down inside yourself, clear to the center of you, and become a close friend of your soul.
This usually requires time alone, time for reflection, meditation and prayer. Second, get yourself powerfully loved at the deepest of levels -- loved in a durable way, loved unconditionally. And finally, go about the task of becoming unswervingly authentic. Let your soul be at the center of your life, rather than trapped in a dark basement of your being.
I'll bet you're wondering how I turned this article about sex appeal into a discussion of body, mind and soul. I've literally watched thousands of people fall for the old idea that sex appeal is all about your body. I've watched them get physically attractive -- and neglect their minds and souls. I've watched them snag a lot of fish from the sea, and I've watched these relationships deteriorate as soon as they got beyond the first 10 percent layer.
But I've watched some otherwise people build their sex appeal around the beauty of their bodies, the magnificence of their minds, and the delicacy and vibrancy of their souls -- and I've noticed that their relationships flourish increasingly over time.