4. Choosing a person who has no exes lurking around hoping to
reignite the relationship.
Lurking exes tend to cause problems for relationships because
the lurked is often torn between the past and present
relationship and cannot fully be in either.
5. The person you choose should have a job or even a career,
and have his or her life and finances in order, or at least
be working on it.
You want someone who is living well with or without you to
avoid unhealthy dependencies and resentments.
6. The person should be someone you enjoy looking at, someone
you find attractive.
You don't have to be picky about the following:
1. The person's profession.
Even if you have had a bad experience with someone of a
particular profession, chances are the trouble was with that
2. How much the person earns.
If you find you earn in different financial brackets, you can
sometimes spend a little and sometimes spend a lot to even
3. Exactly how the person looks.
You need to be attracted to your partner. But you might be
surprised to find yourself attracted to someone who is not your
4. The person's past, as long as it has been worked through and
put to rest.
You need not worry about your partner's past as long as you can
see that the emotions and circumstances of the past have been
experiences and worked through.
If you're too picky or not picky enough you can still end up
alone. A better idea is to have a balance of what you are picky
about and what you are not picky about in order to attract a
balanced person and to create a compatible, satisfying, happy