Are you too Picky or Not Picky Enough?


Are you too Picky or Not Picky Enough?
You can become extremely picky to try to protect yourself from hurt

Are You Too Picky or Not Picky Enough?

Are you too picky or not picky enough when it comes to finding
love? If you have been in one or more long-term relationship
and are now single again, you may find yourself at one of the
two extremes of pickiness. You can become extremely picky to try
to protect yourself from hurt. Or, not having been in a
relationship in a long time, you can be so desperate for a
relationship that being with any person seems much better than


Becoming less or more picky than you currently are about whom
you date may improve your chances of finding true love -- for
the first time or again. Read below to see how you can adjust
your pickiness level.

You are too picky if:

1. You have no problem getting dates, but everyone you date has
something about him or her that turns you off.

2. You have very specific ideas about who your partner needs to
be: a particular religion, income level, profession, very
similar interests, etc.

3. You need a person to prove himself or herself to you over
and over again, before you consider opening up to him or her.

4. You need a partner to never let you down.

5. You have a particular style or type of person you like and
will only date this kind of person.

You are not picky enough if:

1. You are willing to date anyone fairly decent, whether they
are a good match for you or not.

2. You don't want much from a partner: a sense of humor, a job,
and being attracted to the person is good enough.

3. You get into relationships quickly.

4. You will accept lots of imperfections in your partner.

5. You date people whether or not you are attracted to them.

If you identify more with being too picky, when you let someone
in, you do not let them in deeply for fear they will not be good
enough. Because of this, you tend to end up alone.

If you identify more with not being picky enough, you mostly
end up with people who aren't a very good match for you. You're
also likely to spend most of your time out of a relationship and
sad about it.

Want to end up in a relationship rather than ending up alone?
Here some guidelines for what you should and should not be picky

Here's what you should be picky about:

1. Qualities that will matter in the long run: a similar value
system, communication style, and level of integrity.

Ensuring your potential partners have these same qualities
makes being in the relationship with each other easier - the two
of you will be on the same page in many aspects.

2. Your partner should have the same family goals as you, such
as having children or not, getting married or not, etc.

You want someone with the same family goals because they can be
relationship breakers if you're not in agreement.

3. Choosing a kind and gentle person who cares about people's

Relationships can be hard. In hard times you want a partner who
will treat you well instead of poorly.

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