Single On Valentine's Day? 4 Things You Should Definitely NOT Do


If you hate V-Day because you're single, you should stay far away from these 4 things.

It’s that time of year again. With Christmas and New Year's already a fading memory, I'm sure you've noticed the pink and red everywhere. Yes, it's Valentine's Day and it's just around the corner. If you've been in a committed relationship for a while, you've probably got it down pat and know what to expect, but if you're single (newly or otherwise), it can feel like an emotional rollercoaster.

To help clear things up, here's what not to do this Valentine's Day:

1. Go on a first date.

Even if you're a fairly even keeled and grounded person, going on a first date on Valentine's Day will pile on extra pressure and unrealistic expectations. If you're feeling like you'd rather go on a date than be alone, make a plan to have a girl's night out. Believe it or not, Valentine's Day can actually be one of the best days to meet single men.

2. Call your ex.

Worst. Idea. Ever. Thoughts of wanting to feel special and supported will naturally make you think of the last person you were with, often with rose-colored glasses. Don't let these clouded memories and wishful thinking of "if only" make you reach out to your past. Your ex is your ex for a reason, so move forward and know that there is something better ahead for you.

3. Be a hater.

We're constantly sending energetic messages out into the world around us. Hating on the day itself or on happy couples and ripping them apart to make yourself feel better only affects you in the end. Negative energy attracts negative energy, drains you, and will only make you feel worse.

Likewise, positive energy attracts positive energy. Start becoming aware of the mindset that you're in. If you find your thoughts starting to wander to a negative place, stop and replace it with an intent to look at the situation more positively.

4. Let being single define you.

Valentine's Day can make you feel like there's a big spotlight shining on you, announcing to the world that you are single and alone. For many it's not for the first time, but don't let being single define you. A partner is great but doesn't validate you as a worthy person.

There is nothing wrong with being single. The person you look at in mirror every day is the one that knows you the best and can make you the happiest.

Do you love you? Take some time to love who you are, write down at least 12 or more things you love about yourself and put them up somewhere you can read and connect with every day. The more you love and accept yourself, the more you will be loved and accepted by a future partner.

DO celebrate love. Own it. Make the day about connecting with the feeling of love for yourself and for others that you're grateful for in your life. Let friends and family know how much you appreciate them, babysit for a friend, make dinner for your parents, or get crafty and make a huge sparkly card for a kid.

When you spread the love around it will get you out of your head and shift you into a very positive place, eEspecially when you see all the smiles of those you've made feel exceptional. Finally, don't forget to love on you. Treat yourself to something that makes you feel special, because you are amazing and worth loving.

Happy Valentine's Day!

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