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Is Your Guy A Magical Kisser?

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Lips are certainly a sensual part of the body being a part of the erogenous zone

Not only are lips sexy to look at they are part of the erogenous zone of the body.  As Wikipedia states “An erogenous zone is an area of the human body that has heightened sensitivity, the stimulation of which may generate a sexual response, such as relaxation, the production of sexual fantasies, sexual arousal and orgasm.”

Part of the allure of kissing is also knowing how and when to give that sensuous kiss..  In the movie, La La Land they tease the audience with a simple kiss, longing to see it happen and this is just one of the many movies that touch on this romantic notion.   A man that has his kissing prowess down to an art can command his subject into a haze of sublime submission. 

How can you become a magical smoocher?

Don’t be afraid to take control of her, not in a mean or forceful manner but in a confident romantic manner.  Start off with a teasing kiss, a few tinny kisses, no tongue yet.  Get her lips ready to part by gently kissing them, wait for them to part slightly, once they do slowly use your tongue in her upper lip on the inside.  Slip your tongue back out and lightly suck on her upper lip and her lower lip.  All the while put your hand behind her hair on her neck and hold it there.  Then take your tongue and slightly place it inside her mouth teasing her.  Think of the top of the inside lip as her vulva and your tongue playing inside of her upper lip as it has very sensitive nerve endings and surely will remind her of you teasing other parts of her anatomy.  (Reminder, never force your tongue in her mouth, does that remind you of something?)

What goes on in the brain when we kiss?

Our brain becomes hyper focused on the lips.  When kissing sensitivity to the lip area increases creating a chemical cocktail that makes us feel good. The reason for this almost high feeling is due to the makeup of three chemicals, dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. The combination of these three chemicals work by lighting up the 'pleasure centers' in our brain. The dopamine released during a kiss can stimulate a heightened feeling of excitement and evoke desire and passion, along with Oxytocin, otherwise known as the 'love hormone', that encourages feelings of attachment. This is the same hormone that is released during childbirth and breastfeeding. Lastly there is serotonin that brings you back for more-and-more-and-more of the desire to kiss over and over again.

As always practice make perfect so pucker up.  Some even say that when a man is a good kisser he is also good in bed.  One thing for sure is that kissing can be magical with the right person and even better if the right person is also a magical kisser

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