A 7 Step Guide To Better Sex In Marriage

By

A 7 Step Guide To Better Sex In Marriage [EXPERT]
Couples forget that marriage is a choice "not a given." That goes for the sex in marriage as well.

2. Plan two days with intimate touching. After step one, when I am working with couples we will talk about how the exchange felt, and then I can recommend step 2, sometimes strong emotions may be brought to the surface so it is good to seek help if you had strong emotions during step 1 or were not able to complete the exercise.

Step 2, which I refer to as home assignments is to plan two days where again one person is in charge and touching for their pleasure and the other person is the willing participant. It is very important to take turns initiating these exercises.

Phase 2 towards better sex in the marriage is to have your spouse lay on his/her stomach naked with the back exposed. The spouse in charge is to touch the body with hands and lips — soft touching getting to know the other persons body. No talking is allowed and no touching area's in between the legs — this is not sexual but intimate. Connect with your spouse when touching them by concentrating on how their skin feels, hair feels, muscles, shape of body, etc. When the exercise is done, talk about it. Tell each other in a positive way what you liked about it.

3. Create a date night. Intimate conversation between a man and a wife can have a very profound impact on the sexual excitement that it can later hold in the bedroom. As you do the face touching exercise and then the back exercise also set up a date night for the two of you to enjoy together.

Talking to one another about what you would like to do to turn each other on, what pleases you and how you can please your spouse is important in the marriage. The point of this exercise is to create desire for one another and keep the passion going. Intimacy between spouses is what each spouse will make of it. It is the responsibility of both the husband and the wife to create intimate time for each other.

Marriage is about taking responsibility for what part each partner will play and how each will contribute to the marriage. There are reasons why spouses cheat, why marriage ends in divorce and many times one or both spouses have forgotten how to be intimate with one another. Taking turns to be intimate, and not putting it on one spouse can save your marriage! A guide to better sex in your marriage is a way to keep the sex passionate for a life time. Taking the time to do the exercises is how to achieve better, more intimate, more passionate, fun sex!

This article was originally published at Squidoo. Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Dr. Dawn Michael

Sex Therapist

Dawn Michael PhD ACS

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, PhD
Other Articles/News by Dr. Dawn Michael:

The Science Behind Men And Their Hidden Emotions

By

Our brains have two emotional systems that work simultaneously; males seem to use one system more and females seem to use the other system more. As men reach puberty, their emotional empathy is not the same as a woman's and that boundary is there to prevent men from being influenced by others. Whereas women take into account what others think of them, men ... Read more

5 Steps To Making Sure Your Partner Knows How To Love You

By

There have been numerous books written on how to love your man or how to love your woman. The concept of loving is so individualized, depending on how a person was raised, religion, cultural influences, communication and sexual intimacy. Understanding how you need to feel loved and then expressing that to your partner is what the five steps to loving is all ... Read more

The Sexual Aging Of The Mind And Body

By

Oftentimes individuals are not aware of these natural changes, and may view them as lack of sexual desire or a newly developed sexual dysfunction. Our ability to function sexually changes as we mature, where once getting turned on sexually was easy, as a person ages it is normal for an individual to need more mental and physical stimulation. One issue that ... Read more

See More

PARTNER POSTS
Latest Expert Videos
Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Most Popular