We have been married for 20 years and I have lost my desire


We have been married for 20 years and I have lost my desire
What happens when you are married and love your spouse but no longer feel desire for that person...

This loss of sensitivity to estrogen can trigger a cascade of symptoms such as hot flashes, joint pain, anxiety, depression, problems sleeping and changing levels of her libido.  After menopause many women's brains get used to the lower levels of estrogen, but if the testosterone levels are too low or not there at all then she will physically not feel sexual and may even be turned off by anything sexual.  The good news is that it is a simple fix hormonally to balance out the hormones and for her to feel desire, after that then we can begin to work on the intimacy in the marriage and more satisfying sex.


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Dawn Michael PhD ACS

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