The answer to this question is complicated, the reasons why is that it involves two people. When a change can occur it usually is about deciding to make change in oneself, but how do you go about changing the other person, making them understand you better. Is that not what all people really want is to be understood by their spouse?
You cannot change another person, but you can change yourself and the way that you respond to your spouse. Many times when a person has been married for sometime the intimacy in the marriage is not what it used to be, or it has gotten boring. As a Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor my main goal is to help couples better understand each other moving forward in their relationship with solutions that work.