Bring Back The Sizzling Sex

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Bring Back The Sizzling Sex
Working on the marriage is just as important as any other aspect of your life

Those precious toddler years, chasing the children around the home, juggling schedules with your spouse, endless moms groups—no wonder there is no time for sex. You and your spouse are so busy with the kids, and maintaining your family life that you have forgotten about each other. A couple can manage this lifestyle for a few years, then slowly bounce back to spending time together again, but for the couples who don't, things won't get better until you become proactive about your marriage.

Working on your marriage is just as important as any other aspect of your life. Couples get too comfortable with each other and seem to forget that being sexy is not a given, it takes time. Taking the time to seduce each other in the marriage is the responsibility of both spouses. The way that a man seduces a woman is different than how a woman seduces a man. Women like to be touched outside of the bedroom. They enjoy being kissed, hugged, and spending time together before sex even becomes an option. Men like that as well, but to really get a man's attention, putting on a sexy outfit or telling him you want him in the morning and when he gets home from work does the trick as well. 

 

Take your calendar out and make a date night. Get a babysitter for the evening and do something fun together. Don't talk about past events that may bother you, but be present in the moment.  Talk about things that make you both happy and enjoy your time together. All too often couples will make a date night and end up talking about the kids or past problems, and it ends up ruining the evening.

After an evening out, take time to re-connect and bring the spark back into your marriage. Be proactive and put your marriage first!

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Dr. Dawn Michael

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Dawn Michael PhD ACS

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, PhD
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