My Wife Is Not Interested In Having Sex With Me

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My Wife Is Not Interested In Having Sex With Me
How many husbands are in marriages where they are tired of begging for sex from their wives?

If you are one of them then you may want to pay close attention to what you are going to read in this article.  A women's sex drive and desire is different than a man's.....This does not mean that her's is more or less of a sex drive, but with women, they can get turned off from sex for many reasons.  A women's emotions, feeling of love and safety all play part in her level of desire.  Another factor is physical, and this can be her cycle throughout the month as well as her hormone levels.

A list of top ten reasons why your wife may not want to have sex with you!

 

1.  Her hormones may be off:  She may not even realize that her testosterone levels are low and she needs to be tested and given hormone replacement or a testosterone patch.   This would involve her making an appointment with the gynecologist and getting her hormones checked.  A woman with low levels of testosterone physically and mentally will not only, "Not want to have sex but the though of it may completely disgust her".

2.  She is angry with you!  When a women is angry with her husband, it is difficult for her to get in the mood and want to have sex with him.  If you and your wife have unresolved issues that she is continually angry about then take the time to work through them.  Women need to feel love from their husbands not anger or be angry with them.

3.  She is no longer attracted to you:  This is called situational lack of desire and it can happen slowly in a marriage.  A women may find her husband no longer physically attractive.  When a man gains weight it usually goes to his stomach and breasts, instead of him having a manly appearance he now has the look of a pregnant female and not only that, it changes the way he smells.  When men gain weight their estrogen levels go up and this can affect the way he smells to her on a pheromone level.  The physical attraction is no longer there nor is the manly smell to lure her in.

4.  She no longer finds him masculine:  A man that has been overly domesticated to the point of becoming his wife's girlfriend instead of her man, is not attractive.  If you find yourself tip toeing  around the house, beg for sex, hire someone to fix the toilet instead of doing it yourself, she may find this unattractive.  Men in this type of marriage resort to passive aggressive behavior instead of being upfront and honest.  He has become her husband instead of her man, she controls him, and he allows it.  Women in general like to feel feminine and when that relationship is not longer present then the couple  just becomes buddies.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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Dr. Dawn Michael

Sex Therapist

Dawn Michael PhD ACS

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, PhD
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