Having sex with a man that is not able to maintain an erection


Having sex with a man that is not able to maintain an erection
It can be frustrating for both a man and a woman when a man is not able to maintain an erection.

A common question that men ask me in my practice as a clinical sexologist is “I lost my erection during sex is that a psychological or health related issue and what can I do about it”.

The answer is a little complicated because age plays a factor in the equation as well. A man in his early twenties, thirties and into his forties, who has never really experienced problems with getting an erection, may find this to slowly be a problem as he ages. Once this happens as a man ages, he may begin to worry about it, creating preformance anxiety.


Most problems with maintaining erections are psychological, but can be based in a medical or physical place to start with. As men age with the stress of the economy, kids, possible divorce, health issues,dating again, it can have a direct affect on his libido and performance. He may be too exhausted, fatigued or anxious to get fully aroused or have his penis function on command. This is all normal and for the most part it will pass, but what becomes the underling problem for some men is the anxiety surrounding it, which then leads into the performance problem. This then leads the man to go to the doctor for a prescription for Viagra.

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Dr. Dawn Michael

Sex Therapist

Dawn Michael PhD ACS

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, PhD
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