Choosing the guy you really want
By Dawn Michael. Posted on .
Push the magic button of love and there he is lying on your couch in front of you….
What does it take to meet the man of your dreams? Is the man of your dreams a product of what your mom and dad want for you, looks good in public, or on paper? The secret to finding the man of your dreams it to understand the best fit for you!
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The magic word is you, discovering who you are so that you have the ability to choose the right man for you. Let's face the facts ladies a woman who knows who she is, what she wants and is willing to put herself out there to get it, is a sexy confident woman. The word choosing is pro-active, moving in a forward motion, rather then waiting for him to come to you, take control of the situation and choose for yourself.
As a relationship coach I help women to understand who they are and how to go about getting the man of their dreams. One of the best places to start is a reliable dating site. The next step is to format a biography that is describing yourself and what you’re looking for in a man. When writing a biography it is important to be positive. One of the biggest mistakes that women make in their bios is talking about what they don’t like instead of what they do like. Presenting oneself as a confident person is not about being boastful or bragging but being truthful about the positive aspects of your personality.
When asking for the man of your dreams make sure to be specific about the truly important issues and leave out the ones that really don’t matter that much. Personality is something that is important, as well as values. The way a person looks can be important too but being too specific in that area will most likely turn men away. Obviously if you like a man that is fit and active than put that down, or you enjoy a taller man add that as well.
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My recommendation to women is to have them write down on paper exactly how they would like the man of their dream to look, not his personality or anything other than looks. The next page is to write down anything but how a man looks, meaning how he would act towards you, what values he would have and so forth. From the two pages pick out the most desirable traits and put them into the biography. This same exercise works for you as well to write the biography about you.
Understating yourself and knowing what you want is the first step in choosing your dream man.
