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How can you develop good habits in life that will help you reach your your long term goals.

Habit: An acquired behavior pattern regularly
followed until it has become almost involuntary.

The important words in this definition are acquired and
almost involuntary. Let me ask you a question. When is the
last time you sat down and said to yourself, "Today I am
going to add a new habit to my life?" I would venture to
guess that you have probably never said those words.

As you read this article, you will see how easy it is to add
positive habits to your life and the great power they have to
change  it. Think about the words almost involuntary. This means the
habit is so powerful in your mind that it is almost unstoppable! With
respect to bad habits like smoking, procrastination, and
overeating, this is very bad. But with positive habits, this
is very, very good.

What is a positive habit? A positive habit is simply a habit
that produces positive benefits, actions and attitudes you
want to acquire and make a part of your life. Why is there
such great power in positive habits to effect change?
Because habits, by their very nature, are automatic. After
a period of time they can become permanent.

So how do we go about adding new positive habits to our life?
It's really quite easy. You simply begin repeating an action,
attitude or thought process every day for at least 21 days.
Research has shown that an action that is repeated for a
minimum of 21 days is likely to become a permanent habit.

Remember that positive habits have positive benefits and
you will reap those benefits for as long as you maintain
that habit.Remember that positive habits have positive
benefits and you will reap those benefits for as long as
you maintain that habit.

So now that we know what positive habits are, and how to
acquire them, let's look at a simple positive habit that will
help you reach all of your goals ..automatically.

Positive Habit #53 - Make it a habit to set goals

Did you know that the most successful people all share the
common positive habit of goal setting? A study was done to
determine the importance of goal setting. College students
who had gone on to achieve great success in business were
asked to list their habits.

The students who had made a habit
of setting goals were in the top 3% of earnings in the
population! It is almost impossible to overestimate the value
of goal-setting as a positive habit. Goal setting is simple,

yet 97% of the population never do it. By making goal setting
a positive habit, you can start placing yourself in the
top 3% of the population of successful people.

Here are some simple steps to help you start making goal
setting a positive habit:

Step 1 - Define your goals, write them down, and be very
specific; capture your goals on paper. It is amazing
how many people never take the time to write down exactly
what it is they want in life. Remember, you can't hit a
target if you don't have one.

Step 2 - Determine what the time line is for reaching your
goals; set specific deadlines for each goal.

Step 3 - Identify any obstacles that may stand in your way,
list them, and state how you plan to overcome them.

Step 4 - Make a list of the people and/or organizations who
will help you reach your goals.


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