Why You Shouldn't Get Married Until You're 40

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Why You Shouldn't Get Married Until You're 40
An expert makes his case for holding off on your 'I dos.'

I know, I never talk about marriage. Not that I'm against marriage nor am I commitment phobic.

I've been married. It lasted three years and one day. It was basically like a lease. At the end she still had low mileage, that "new wife smell," and she still looked great when I returned her to the dealership. She was like a certified pre-owned Lexus.

Now this is not the part that will offend you ... it's this next part that will get under your skin.

For those of you who got married in your 20s, I think all of you got married too young. Yeah, I know. You wanted to be a young mommy or dad. But young parents still have no idea who they are as people.

If you're a woman, you really don't know who you are until you're 30. And, sorry guys, but if you're a man, you really don't know who you are until you're at least 35 or 40. This would make all of you old dads and older moms not exactly Warren Beatty old, but older (and, may I add, wiser). Now, I could go online and grab you a bunch of statistics about divorce rates and everything else, but why bore you with statistics that you can research on your own?

This would also mean that families would be smaller and the worlds population would slow down to something more manageable. This is not an Al Gore thumping blog post but we are running out of key resources in the world and a few less kids would really help the issue.

From all my years of coaching, I have just found that women don't really know who they are until they're 30. Your 20s are all about finding yourself. And as for men, we're just way too immature until we're at least 35 to 40. Keep reading...

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This article was originally published at David Wygant for Women . Reprinted with permission.
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