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So, Why Didn't He Call?

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From a man’s point of view, women get really jazzed up very easily.

From a man’s point of view, women get really jazzed up very easily. They go out on a date — a date with a guy they think is so fantastic — and then after the date all they can do is think about him and what a great time they had. They sit back and wait for him to call again. They start wondering why he didn’t call. And of course because they’re wondering and waiting, it seems like it’s taking even longer.

Should I call him? Before you start biting your nails over what to do, think about this: It doesn’t matter if he calls or not. If someone doesn’t call you back, why even care about that person? Why turn it into something to obsess over? As far as you’re concerned, it’s one and done.

 

If he doesn’t call you, he’s not really interested. It’s something that I want every woman to realize. If you’re looking for something substantial, you’re one and done. Don’t chase him. Don’t text him all the time. Don’t waste your time wondering when he’s going to call you again.

I know you’re thinking to yourself, But David, I really like this guy. Shouldn’t I at least make sure he knows that? Yes, but don’t you want the feeling to be mutual? Don’t you want to be able to like somebody who likes you back and is thinking about you just as much?

If your mind is still cranking away about him and you’re really wondering, then yes, you can send the guy a text. Just something simple, like, “Hey, are you still alive?”, “Am I still in your phone?”, with a smiley face if you have to do something.

But I know that as a man, if I am interested in getting to know a woman for more than just sex, I will call her back. I’ll ask her out again at the end of the first date. I’m not going to get too busy and forget about her. So it’s time to just wake up, not obsess about a guy who doesn’t call you back, and go out there and meet other men who will think about you and actually want to get to know you.

Stay open. Don’t close down and hunker over one “maybe” guy. If you stay open, you’ll actually be able to go out and be receptive to meeting other guys.

This article was originally published at David Wygant for Women . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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