One of the questions women always ask me is, "Where can I meet men? Whenever I go to bars I just get men stinking of booze throwing pickup lines at me. Surely there's somewhere better to go?"
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I know because they're places you already visit, or would enjoy being at.
Think about it this way. What do you enjoy doing? What hobbies do you have? Do you like Salsa dancing? Are you an enthusiastic ice skater? Maybe you love going to the theatre to catch a play?
If you want to meet your ideal man, my advice is to spend more time in the places you enjoy. Go ice skating more regularly. Take a new Salsa class. Embrace your hobbies, because guess what kind of men you'll meet in these places?
The chances are you'll meet men with the same interests as you!
Any single guys going to watch a play are going to have an interest in the arts. Men who have taken up Salsa like to dance, and probably want to meet a woman like you. But there are a number of reasons to try and meet guys in places you enjoy going to...
1. You'll be comfortable - If you're in an environment you enjoy, you'll be more relaxed in yourself. Sure you might stsill feel butterflies when you walk over to talk to a man, but you'll feel much better than if you were in a loud club, or somewhere you didn't really want to be.
2. Conversation comes easily - One of my big hobbies is football. I could talk for hours about it, even to a complete stranger. When you're passionate about something, it's easy to talk about and conversation flows much better. The other advantage, is when you're enthusiastic, you speak with energy and passion. Guys find that sexy in a woman.
3. You'll have a common interest - You already know you have something in common with the guy. When you have a shared interest it makes bonding natural. It's easier to connect with a man you already have a bond with.
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Stop hanging around in bars expecting to meet your dream man. Yes, it might happen, but you're far more likely to meet a man you truly connect with, when you spend time embracing your hobbies, and spending time in places you enjoy
So what are your passions? What do you really love to do? Maybe this is the perfect time to start that Salsa class you've been talking about for ages?!