Today, I got the most frequently asked question in my email inbox.
I get this every day from a woman regardless of the age.
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She could be in your 20s, 30s, 40s or even 50s.
But every day—without fail—I get this e-mail:
David, I've been dating this guy. When is the right time to sleep with him?
This is where we've gone wrong as a society. Women are looking for a statistical edge in a relationship.
Let me go deeper into this: these women are looking to find what the odds are to sleep with a man on the first date, second date, the third date, the fourth date, the fifth date, and sixth date.
They want to know when the right time is; they’re looking for guaranteed success.
Face it, you don't want to sleep with a guy and not have him call you the next day.
When you sleep with a man, the majority of time, you really want a relationship from that guy.
If it was just sex you wanted, you wouldn't think about when to sleep with a guy. If you just wanted to get off, you wouldn't even ask this question.
So the majority of you that ask this question want to know when is the right time to have sex with a man so that it still leads to a relationship.
And the answer is going to drive you crazy…
There is no right time.
You can search the Internet for answers on this question all day long. And there are experts out there that will give you answers that placate you, so that you feel better about when to sleep with a man.
But the real answer lies within.
Here's the deal:
If you want to sleep with a man, make sure you know what the man's goals and aspirations are.
When you're out on that first date, stop talking at him, stop telling him what you want.
Men are salesmen. A man will use that information, tell you that he feels the exact same way, only to get you into bed and dump you two weeks later.
Next time you want to know what a man's intentions are, look at him and say this:
"You know what. I want to know what you want? I wonder what you're looking for right now?"
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A man that's honest will look you directly in the eyes and tell you exactly what he wants—whether it's sex, whether it's relationship, or a new lover.
A man that is a salesman is going to look up in the air, he's going to search for an answer. He's going to look above you, beyond you. He's going to wonder what the hell he needs to say in order to close the deal, seal the deal, and have you in his bedroom as quickly as possible.
Sleep with the man that looks you directly in the eyes—those are the guys that will stick around.
It's about knowing who they are and what they're looking for.