When Did Men And Women Swap Roles?

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When Did Men And Women Swap Roles?
In a society where sexuality has gone mad, I explore why men and women appear to have swapped roles.

I’m beginning to think our role-reversal in society has taken full effect.

Men have vaginas now, and women have penises. I’ve been meeting the most feminine men ever recently. Nowadays, men don’t even know how to lead as a man. Men are so afraid to talk to women you’d think they were a little girl cowering in the corner from a spider. And women are out their constantly having to act like men. It’s women leading the way. It’s women taking control on dates.

During Summer on the beach, I think about 95% of the men I saw didn’t have an ounce of hair on their chest. Guys in their 20’s wax themselves more than women do. I even know guys who have electrolysis or full-on laser hair removal. We even have make up for men. There’s nothing wrong with keeping yourself looking in good shape, but make up for men?

What happened to the way our society used to be?

Man is the king and woman is the queen. The queen can still run a country. The queen can still make lots of money, but it’s an internal feeling. I just feel like we’ve become the most feminine masculine society, and we’ve flipped the board completely. Dating is a prime example of where society is heading.

Men don’t phone women first anymore. Men don’t ask women out on dates. Men don’t even open the car door for women anymore. Women constantly have to chase men, or make the first move themselves. I’m all for equality. I’m all for everyone succeeding, and making money doing the things they love to do, but in a relationship the man still needs to be the man and the woman still needs to be the woman.

Man still needs to be the rock. He needs to be the strength and the protector. They need to protect their family. Whenever I sleep with someone or I’m in a relationship, I always sleep on the side of the bed that faces the door.

I want to be the first line of defense if someone comes in. I want to protect her from whatever evil brings. I just don’t find society as a whole is like that anymore. Men are wimpy, and women have become super masculine. I don’t think it works.

I see it all the time in the emails I get every day. Men are scared to talk to women, they’re scared to ask them out, they’re scared of taking control in the bedroom, and it frustrates women. Women end up so sexually frustrated because no man dares to claim them.

No man takes them and makes them feel like the sensual, beautiful woman they desire to be. Our roles have reversed and we’re starting to lose the plot. I see beautiful women over the age of 50, who are single and lonely. I see people wounded, afraid to be vulnerable, afraid to open up because of past hurt, and past heartbreak.

Instead of allowing themselves to find strength in their vulnerability, so many of the men I hear from become whiny little boys. Being vulnerable is strong. It’s even a little sexy. I know tons of women who find it sexy when a man is vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean you have to become a little girl.

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