Wouldn’t you love to be a fly on the wall in a room full of men having deep conversations? You might be thinking to yourself, “Men having deep conversations? What could they possibly be speaking about?”
Let me tell you ladies something. Men do talk and think very deeply. Probably much more than you think. In 15 years of coaching Men’s Empowerment Weekends, I’ve discovered what men want in a girlfriend. I’ve also discovered men desire just as much from a relationship as a woman; perhaps even more!
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Men want to fall in love and want to settle down. Men want to get married, and many want to have children. You're probably saying to yourself, “Where are these men you speak of? I’ve never run into one that wanted any of those things!”
Maybe it’s because of the way you play men. And yes, I’m going to use that terminology, because some of you ladies can be real games players. For whatever reason, many women feel they have to play games in a relationship to attract men. They feel they have to become “less available” to keep a guy interested. They need to seem uninterested to get a guy to commit.
I don’t know where you’ve been picking this stuff up, because no real man wants to play games in a relationship. We just don’t want that in a girlfriend. To get a man to commit you need to give a man what he desires in a relationship. Be the type of girlfriend men want, and he’s never going to want anyone else.
Men are very simple creatures. We like to eat, we like to drink, we like to play with our friends, and we like to be in an intimate physical and emotional relationship. It’s really that simple.
But what do men really want in a girlfriend?
We want a woman who’s going to do everything in her power to make us feel amazing.
We want someone who’s going to anticipate our needs.
We’d love a woman to be tuned into who we are as men.
We’re looking for our best friend. Someone we can hang out with and have fun with.
Someone we can talk to and relate to in so many different ways.
But probably the biggest thing guys want in a girlfriend, is someone who isn’t going to bust our balls!
We don’t want to date the chronic texter. When we go out with our friends we don’t want a woman who’s going to message all night asking where we are, and what we’re up to. We want a “Hey, hope you have a great night,” at the beginning of the evening and that’s it.
A text at the end of the night saying, “Hi, hope you got in safe. Thinking of you,” is a great idea too. It shows you care, but you’re not some kind of mad bunny boiler tracing our every move. You have to trust us. We don’t want another Mother.
We just want you to be you. That’s what guys want. Men can be just as deep as women, and we’re just as eager to meet someone special and fall in love as you are. The thing is you just need to play it cool.
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That doesn’t mean pretending your busy. It just means giving a man space to be who he is. If you can do that, you’re going to have a guy who loves and appreciates you like never before.
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