What To Do If He Asks For A Threesome

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What To Do If He Asks For A Threesome
Your man just asked you for a threesome! What are you going to do? Here's the best way to react.

You're in a relationship with a great guy, and everything's going really well. He treats you like as princess, he makes you laugh, and the sex is HOT! Then one day, you're chatting in the kitchen about your sexual fantasies. You want to spice things up in the bedroom, so you ask about his deepest desires.

You think maybe he'd like some role play or the inclusion of some toys during sex. Then he drops the bombshell—he wants a threesome with another woman. You weren't expecting that, were you?

So, now what are you going to do?

The first thing you need to know, is this guy has never listened to any of my products because he'd know a threesome has to be the woman's idea, not his. If you're having a threesome it needs to be about your pleasure, not his pleasure or the third person involved.

How are you going to react?

The first thing you need to do is take a breath and relax. Ask him to tell you more about his fantasy and how he imagines it would go down.

If he talks about having sex with you and another woman, he's telling you he still wants to have sex with other women. It's a sign that even though he may love you, he still craves sex with other women. It doesn't mean he's going to run off and have an affair, but it's something you need to be aware of.

What you want is for him to ask you about YOUR fantasies. If he asks whether you've ever wanted a threesome, he's showing he's interested in your pleasure. He's probably curious about seeing you with another woman. He doesn't want to have sex with her, but he wants to see you with her. Most guys are curious about seeing their partners pleasured by another woman.

This is your chance to find out what he wants from a threesome. Is it about your pleasure or his? Use this opportunity to expose his real desires. Does he want to see you have full sex with another woman, or just watch you dressing up and kissing? It's a great chance to look deeper into his sexual psyche.

If he doesn't stop talking about having rampant sex with another woman in front of you, it shows he probably isn't the relationship material you thought he was. He's telling you he still desires other women, and that isn't a good sign.

Now you have a decision to make. Do you give him what he wants or do you let him have his fantasy, but without you involved?

Think very carefully!

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