It's about you.
Have you ever been in a relationship where you're trying to paint the picture of how things COULD be to the other person? We've all been there.
We've all had relationships where we're selling the beautiful picture. We're selling our picture, but the other person isn't interested. He/she just sits there and listens but doesn't buy the picture.
It's not that he/she doesn't love you or doesn't want to be with you. It's just that a lot of times when we're selling what we want, but isn’t right for the other person.
I hear people use the terms, ‘afraid of commitment’ or ‘commitment-phobic.’ But in reality, nobody can expect somebody else to commit until he/she is completely ready for it. (And sometimes it takes a little longer than we want, which leads to unrest.)
It's frustrating when you love somebody so much and desperately want him/her to be with you, so you just keep trying to reframe, rephrase and resell the picture you see. You don't want to give up on your relationship, so you reduce yourself to a relationship salesperson.
I get it. I've been there.
I've thought, If I just say it to her this way, she's going to see it and love me the way I need to be loved.
The trouble is it never seems to work out — no matter how well or genuinely it's communicated.
Do you want to know why?
Because in relationships (and in life), people can't do things until they're ready. And they have to be ready on their own — able to see the light clearly, admit their mistakes, and want it ... on their own.
It's just the way life works. You can't force something on somebody no matter how bad you want it. And if you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem ready, there’s only one thing you can do:
Let your partner go, so he/she can become ready on his/her own.
And if/when he/she is ready, be open. True love never dies.