Have you ever had this feeling? You've started dating a guy who's really good looking, sexy, and you two have a lot of fun together. However, there are many things you don't agree on. In fact, sometimes he has a really bad attitude. You wonder whether your relationship is right or not. You want it to work out, but you're not sure if you can stand his behavior.
But every time you look at him, you get turned on. He's one of the most beautiful people you've ever seen in your life. Before you know it, you're having amazing sex. Now you're thinking to yourself, "I love him. I could love this man forever. I want to be with him till the day I die."
In that moment, your mind erases all the crazy stuff he's been doing the last couple of weeks. You forget his bad attitude, your mind blocks everything out all because you're under the influence of oxytocin. It feels like you've taken drugs when it's released in your body, and do you know why? Because oxytocin is a drug!
Do you really love this man? Sure you do. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him? Sure, in that moment you do. In the throes of passion you're 100% certain you do. Don't be fooled; you're under the influence of a powerful sexual drug. It's no different to taking a hit from a bong or a snort of cocaine. It's no different than popping a pill.
Under the influence of a drug like LSD, you could become totally convinced a car on the street is alive and talking to you. Oxytocin is an extremely powerful drug that connects you to the man inside of you. A drug can amplify the feelings you genuinely have for someone.
So there you are, two bodies grinding together. Two bodies connected, two souls connecting. And then what happens after the sex?
You lay there together on a high. Hopefully, as the oxytocin starts to leave your system you start to think to yourself, "I do love this guy, but I don't want to be with him forever. I just can't cope with his craziness."
But some women make the mistake of paying too much attention to the way they feel during sex. They think about how good the oxytocin made them feel and believe it's love making them feel that way.
You need to remember; sex releases an extremely powerful drug into your body, and you need to learn how it affects your thinking.
Sex is sex, and love is love. Don't confuse one with the other.
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