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The Power of Hello

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The Power of Hello
You had me at, "Hello."
The power of one simple word can go a long way and can even land you a first date!

Recently, one of my most stubborn clients who likes to challenge every level of my brain when coaching her, asked me this question:

"I'm having the hardest time getting my keister out of the house and practicing hello. I feel if I do what you tell me to do, which is saying hello to men, that they are going to think I’m coming onto them. And if they think that I’m coming on to them and they don’t respond, then they are going to talk about me all day long and I am never going to be able to show my face in public again."

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So what did I tell my client, who happens to be a good friend and my favorite client, but who thinks she is a pain in the keister? By the way, I never used the word "keister" before her . . . but there’s something sort of "Leave It To Beaver" about it and I like it.

So what did I tell her to do? I told her to go out and whenever she sees a man, she needs to utter one of these variations of the world hello: hey, what’s up, how you doin', hello, or hi.

I then explained to her that some men are going to say hello back and some men are not. If she goes out and spends 30 days saying hello to every man that she sees that she is attracted to, the end result is going to be far greater than staying home and not talking to anybody.

Here’s another thing and it’s what is really ironic about my client. If you met her and talked to her, you would find out that she can’t shut up. I can get on the phone with her and we can yap for an hour about nothing, and I am the one who always ends the conversation. The one thing she cannot do is talk to men to whom she is attracted to.

If you are a woman who can’t talk to men and who doesn’t know how to smile at men, you are going to spend a lot of time by yourself. You HAVE to learn how to flirt so that men will approach you. Keep Reading...

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David Wygant

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