Let me ask you a few questions...
Are you tired of playing the dating game?
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Are you craving real success in dating?
Are you desperate to meet the man of your dreams?
How many times have you played that old game? You didn't make the phone call. You waited to call him back for three days. You listened to your friend’s advice and decided not to text him that weekend so you looked busy.
You met a man you were really attracted to, but instead of saying yes when he asked you out you said you were busy. You waited for him to call you again but he disappeared. To enjoy real success in dating you need to stop playing the games.
Games outside of relationships are great. I love playing Monopoly. Why don't you come over to my loft in Los Angeles and we can sit and play Monopoly? As long as I get to be the dog and the banker, we’ll play!
Gin Rummy is another great game. We'll watch the sun set and we'll play Gin Rummy together. How about we go to the beach and play some volleyball? That could be a great date.
But seriously to have real success in dating, the David Wygant way, you need to stop playing the relationship games. Games will never get you anywhere, because games are based on manipulations and lies. You need to be honest, open, real, and you need to be a little bit vulnerable.
I know that word vulnerable really scares some of you, but vulnerability is the only way you're going to attract the right man into your love life. See, every day I go out and I don't care. I take away the outcome in dating, and that's one of keys to being successful in love.
I'm not thinking about each encounter as anything more than it is. I don’t meet a woman and instantly think, “Is she the one?”
If I meet a woman that's really interesting, I do it the David Wygant way.
I talk to her. I get to know who she is as a person, and then I make a decision about whether I want to see her again.
If I want to see her again, I'm going to call her right away. I'm going to want to get to know her. I'm going to go with the flow and momentum of life. I’m not going to pretend I can’t see her for weeks because my diary is so full.
Cut the games!
Stop acting like you're busy. Stop acting like you have so much going on in your life, and start making yourself available, open, and vulnerable. It’s the only way you’re going to meet a great guy.
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Be open. Tell a man what you want. Don't be afraid of it. If a guy calls you back, call him back right away. Keep the flow going.
I talk a lot about this in all of my dating products. It's all about being real and not caring so much what the other person thinks, because in reality that's what the relationship needs to be in the first place. A relationship needs to be real from the second you meet. Try it and you'll be more successful in dating than ever before.