Do you have a marriage blueprint?
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You’ve probably had it since birth…
Are your parents still together and still in love after 40 or 50 years?
Then you’ve got the marriage blueprint, the blueprint that things have to be rosy and beautiful.
This probably makes your dating very hard at time because you can’t seem to find somebody who loves you like Daddy loves you, or like Mommy and Daddy love each other.
Have you ever felt that by a certain age you should be back into the suburbs with three kids?
We all have some type of marriage blueprint based on what our parents told us and what we’ve witnessed throughout our entire life—it’s usually NOT based on our actual wants or our current reality.
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That’s the problem with dating because a lot of us are dating from an old program, an old blueprint that continuously haunts us every single day. This blueprint allows us to pick the wrong men over and over again.
Take a look at your blueprint. Does your blueprint scream marriage and kids even though you’re living in the city and don’t want that?
Does your blueprint make you feel insignificant because your friends are all married and they wonder why you’re the last single woman standing?
Your marriage blueprint is what’s probably causing you a lot of grief, so it’s time to work on a new blueprint.
It’s time to really figure out what you want, who you are, what you’re about. It starts with self-love, and it starts with being honest about who you are in your life right now.
Together, we can go on this journey and find your marriage blueprint. It’s going to take time, it’s going to take fighting the status quo, and most importantly, it’s going to open you up to a new heart space, a space of love that’s going to enable you to be able to meet somebody that is just going to blow you away based on your new story.