To Kiss Or Not To Kiss ... THAT Is The Question

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To Kiss Or Not To Kiss ... THAT Is The Question
Are you ready for some lip-to-lip loving?

* When you woke up, did you think about the person?

* Are you still excited the next morning that you met that person?

* While you’re kind of hanging out and going to work the next day, did you have a smile on your face that you met someone really cool the night before?

There’s a lot of pressure about the first kiss at the end of the first date. Plus, the first kiss at the end of the first date does not necessarily mean that you’re going to end up seeing the person again. It could just be that you felt like you had to kiss them just because it was the end of the date.

I feel kissing at the end of the first date is so predictable. Not kissing a woman at the end of the first date is the opposite . . . it just shows a sense of patience. It’s also really nice to get a hug at the end of the first date, because really you’re both nervous at the end of the first date. She’s wondering if you are going to kiss her. You’re wondering if you should kiss her. So, why bother?

A lot of times there’s not even a lot of passion in that first date first kiss. It’s a nervous, “windshield wiper” kiss. Your tongues do a little dance in each other’s mouth. Neither one of your hands are moving anywhere. It’s kind of like your first dance in high school.

So let’s get rid of the misconception about the first date first kiss. What’s more important is the follow-up phone call, or whether a man asks you out during the first date for another date. Those are signs of real interest. Real interest is also a man calling you the next day, seeing what you're up to, and getting

together with you soon so you can keep the momentum going. This will make the first kiss a real first kiss.

So here’s a question for all of you: Do you desire a nervous first date windshield wiper kiss . . . or a passionate second date kiss?

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David Wygant

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