Ladies, I'm sure you've all, at one point or another, sought out answers to the age old question "How do you keep a man happy?" Look no further. With this relationship advice for women, I will help you understand what makes men truly happy. What makes men commit? What makes a man want to be with YOU and only you?
You know what ladies? It's actually much easier than you think. You keep a man happy in the exact same way you want to be kept happy: By speaking to him in his love language. Do you know what your love language is?
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I highly recommend a book by Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages." It's a great book because it teaches you how to understand what you need from a relationship. It helps you understand your deep needs, wants and desires. Once you understand them, you'll know how you need to be loved. You see, we all speak in different languages when it comes to what makes us happy in a relationship. We all need to be loved in a certain way.
For instance, I'm all about physical touching and words of affirmation. I really need that physical touch. It keeps me going every day. I love my words of affirmation. I love a woman to tell me how she feels about me and how she thinks about me. But what makes me happy may not make another man happy.
The man you're with may not need or want to hear words of affirmation, or maybe he could care less. You may turn him on with gifts and acts of service. You need to know what language of love he speaks.
I truly believe in order to love somebody, you have to take the time to understand what makes them tick. Most people make the mistake of loving their partners based on their own desires. When I'm in a relationship I want to find out how my partner wants to be loved. What makes them feel happy? What do they enjoy?
A woman that gives me the time to draft my fantasy football league team and shows an interest makes me feel great. A woman who takes an interest in who I am also turns me on. A woman who cares and nurtures me the way I need, makes me feel wonderful. It's all about understanding your partner's needs and realizing everyone is different.
You can't love all men the same. What pleases one won't please another. When you start a new relationship, take the time to learn your partner's emotional blueprint. Ask them what they want from a relationship. That way you'll know exactly how to keep him happy.
Life and love are both beautiful journeys, but you have to remember not all of us experience it in the same way. Not all of us want the same things. That's what makes us individuals.
You might be passionately attracted to each other physically, but if you're emotional blue prints are different, it probably won't work out. That's just one of those things we have to accept.
The take away from all this? To keep a man happy, you need to understand exactly what it is that truly makes him happy. Then, if it fulfills you to love him the way he needs, enjoy the beautiful connection because he'll want to love you on your terms in return.
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