This is a question that women ask all the time:
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“Why do men commit?”
And I always give this analogy in response:
A woman’s perfect night is to come home, unwind, talk all about her day, and have her man shake his head, listen, and say, “Yes, honey, I understand totally,” without doing his man thing and try to fix it.
Maybe he’ll rub her head a little bit, maybe hold her a little bit, and that’s it.
A man’s favorite night is this:
He comes home and he smells steak. He looks at his woman dressed in lingerie and says, “Honey, what is that?”
She responds with, “That’s a prime rib that I’m cooking for you. Would like your blowjob now or later?”
Are men really just primitive cave men that want their dicks sucked non-stop?
The answer to that is yes and no.
We also like to be nurtured like from mom, but we but we also love a woman that’s going to be naughty with us because the thought of being naughty with a woman on a regular basis really turns us on and makes us want to commit.
But we also need you to honor and respect us.
We need to feel like a man at all times. When you speak to us, you need to speak to us like men and not like little boys—even if we may be acting like one in the moment.
We want to be nurtured.
We want to be honored.
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We want to know that you appreciate the skills we have and we don’t want to hear about what we can’t do or about what you’d like to change about us.
Men commit to a woman that is willing to go the extra mile sexually.
Every man is different.
Some men love a woman dressed up in a little cop outfit with little handcuffs on it. Personally, I think that would crack me up. Other man, love a daily blowjob. Other men like sex once a week.
But whatever it is that your man wants sexually, if you’re willing go there and explore those fantasies with him, then that is a man that is going to stick around.
Find out who your man is and what he is sexually and you’ll know exactly how to get him to commit and stay happy.
In reality, we’re looking for a partner or a best friend, somebody that’s just not going to bust our balls.
We want to be a rock; we want to be strong for you. We don’t want to be chiseled or broken down, and that’s the problem a lot of women do. They look at a man and they date him for his potential, and then they try to mold him, and by the end of that relationship, he’s broken.
You want a man to commit? Date a man that you actually want to be with.
We just want to be loved for who we are and we want to be accepted for who we are, just like you.