If you're looking for romance start by making the time for love.
Here are some rules about being romantic and looking after a relationship with a romantic man. You may find this funny that a man is telling a woman how to be romantic. But in today's Twitter/Facebook obsessed society, everybody seems to be attached to their iPhone 24/7 and that includes you ladies. I've actually found as a man that women suck at being romantic. Oh yeah, I'm using the word suck here because I've seen so many women who have no idea how to respond to a man's romantic intent.
For example, a member of my team met a woman. They went out on three dates. He did everything women want. He followed up the date with a text. He asked her out at the end of the first date. He met her at a place that he knew she would like. He did exactly the things women want a guy to do after a date. He's a romantic guy so he sends her flowers. They arrive at 4:00pm because 1-800-Flowers tell you exactly when the flowers are delivered. It's great. They get delivered almost immediately.
He doesn't hear from her until 7:30 that night. She's on her way home on her car phone because he can hear the whoosh noise going through the car. She thanked him immensely and said "everybody in the office was so amazed. They all loved the flowers, they're so beautiful." And that was it!
What did she do wrong? She called after 3 hours, isn't that OK?
No it's not! You want to know how to meet and keep a romantic man? No matter what you're doing at that moment you get those flowers, if you want that man to continue to be romantic, you drop everything and you ring or text him immediately.
This woman runs her own business. She's the boss, and she doesn't have to answer to anyone. She could have picked the phone up right away if she'd wanted to. You don't make someone wait for a call after they've made a beautiful romantic gesture. It's amazing how many women wait hours, days, to thank a guy for something because they're busy. Here's the deal. If you want love, you've got to unbusy yourself.
Because love is something that we all crave, want, and desire. And if you crave, want, and desire love, you've got to stop being so busy and take that time out. It's a phone call. These aren't the days where we had to go to a pay phone. She was in the office, she signed for the flowers herself, it would have taken two minutes to pick up the phone.
So you want a man to remain romantic, and you want a man to continue to chase and pursue you; you've got to thank him for his actions, because a relationship is all about encouragement. "Thank you so much for sending the flowers, you're amazing." That is all you need to say!
Let me share something with you before I end this rant…Men are more sensitive than you imagine. We want to open up to you. And if you want us to come out of that man cave you've got to encourage us out a little more every single day. So the next time a man sends you flowers you know what to do.
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