I spoke to an old dating coaching client of mine this morning. She told me she’d met a guy she was super attracted to. They’d been texting, they’d been messaging on the Internet, and they’d spoken on the phone every day. She’s attracted to him in every way possible. Even though they live a hundred miles apart, they want to give their relationship a try.
So what’s the problem? She’s worried about having sex with him. They’ve spoken very intimately, and discussed their sexual desires in depth. What’s come out of it, is they both need different things.
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He needs an open, experienced, lover that will allow him to open her up and make her feel pleasure like never before. She needs a man who will take his time with her, and teach her how to discover herself sexually.
You see, this client is on a journey of amazing self-discovery at the moment.
She’s discovering who she is. She’s learning about attraction, self-love, and what she wants from a man sexually. Now she needs to experience it, but she wants a man who’s prepared to take it slow. She doesn’t want a Christian Grey type lover. She’s not ready for that yet.
This guy doesn’t seem to mind. He’s open, he listens to her, and he’s put her under no pressure to perform.
He’s invited her to spend the weekend at his place, and she desperately wants to see him. She’s starting to develop feelings for him, and she believes he will take it slowly with her. But something in her mind is holding her back.
That inexperienced part of her is screaming, “Hey, this is nuts. You can’t go and stay with someone you don’t really know. He’s too experienced for you!”
It’s the logical side of her mind talking. She’s trying to analyze things, rather than just feeling. Sometimes in life you need to let go, trust, and just feel. We spend so much time locked in our heads because instead of experiencing life, we started trying to second guess it. Now we over think everything.
In my book “Naked,” and in all my products I teach you to live life based on your intuition and instinct. Today we’re so afraid to live like that. Most of us won’t even try. We won’t take a chance, so we just go through life experiencing the same thing over and over again.
We have the same relationships over and over again.
So here’s what you need to do; the next time a man you’re attracted to asks you to give your relationship a try, say “Yes!”
Take a chance. The worst-case scenario is it doesn’t work out, and you go your own separate ways. The best-case scenario is you could meet your ideal man, and enjoy a happy, fulfilling relationship. It’s OK to be afraid. It’s OK to be vulnerable.
Life is out there waiting for you. It’s time to escape your mind and start living it!
Are you ready for it?
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