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Frequently Asked Questions Volume 1

Love, Sex

Here are some of the most asked questions on love, dating and sex.

Dinner and a movie is so overdone. What are some creative dating ideas?  


Here are a few of my favorites, and by the way Dinner and a movie is for people in a relationship.


Find a small local band to listen to.


Take your dog to the park and invite them along.


Take them to Target and play in the aisles with all the fun toys.


Play one on one basketball.


Bake a cake together.


Go to the zoo.


What should you do if your date refuses to let you pay for the bill? 


You look at them as you would a friend and say. "This one is on me you can get the next one"


Simple easy and classy.

 


What are your thoughts about sex on the first date? 


I have no problem with it, you are both adults and if you cant control your passion then go for it.


Although if you do go for it, you better behave as adults after. Meaning, no guilt and you can openly discuss it and move forward.

 


 


Should you trust first impressions of a person, or delay judgment and wait a while to find out more? 


I think you need to gather information about someone before you make a final decision on what you feel.


People who tend to judge someone quickly tend to lead a very shallow live.


Why can't I ever get past a first date?


People who tend to crash and burn after one date tend to do these common things over and over.


1. Talk about and bash there exes


2. Have desperate energy.


3 They interview each other but dont listen to each other.


4. They only talk about themselves


5 They brag about who they are and spend the night overselling instead of attracting.


6. They dont take the time to make themselves look good for the date.


7. They drink to much on the date.


8 They have poor eye contact with there date.


9. They have angry energy.

 


All it takes is one of these negative traits to turn your date off.

 


How do I hook up for seconds?


In order to get seconds you need to make the first course tasty. Follow these simple tips and they will order another round of you.


1. Be present during the date.


2. Have a positive attitude.


3 Stop selling yourself to the date.


4. Stop thinking about what to say and react to what they are saying.


5 Never talk bad about an ex


6. Dress to impress


7. Keep the eyes on the date.


8. Be modest and listen.


9. Smile.


10. Talk about things you are passionate about.


My friend just broke up with his girlfriend, and I think she is very attractive. When is it appropriate for me to start making the moves on her?


You need to let the dust settle. Be a great friend first and as soon as your friend has recovered she is fair game.


People are not lifetime posessions. If you and her are attracted to each other you need to respect your friend and when you do hook up you need to be open with your friend.


Do not let them ever find out through the grapevine that you hooked up with her, make sure that before you make the move you have the talk with your friend.


If he is a real friend he will be ok with it.


What's the best way to ask someone about their sexual history?


To be totally upfront with you about this. Someone's sexual history is not yours to judge.


As long as they are STD free and they know how to rock your world in bed, that is all that should concern you.


I enjoy someone that is experienced that way i don't have to waste my time teaching them.


Be open and stop judging other peoples past behavior's, it will yield far more interesting results not only in the bedroom but in your life.

 


I'm very attracted to someone but I don't want to make the first move. In what ways can I show that I'm interested without being too explicit? 

I am all about being upfront and playing no games.
Tell them that you are attracted to them and you like to go slow and get to know them before being intimate.


If a person does not respect that, than they are not worth your valuable time.


I'm ready to share my kinky sexual habits with my new partner, but I'm scared she'll be freaked out. Any advice? 

 


How kinky are you? I am all about being totally upfront with someone about your sexual habits.


If you get involved with someone who you are not sexually compatible with, you will just end up leading an alternative deviant life on the side.


My suggestion is to bring your kinkiness in slowly, why don't you experiment with your least threatening kinky act first.

 


This way you can see how she responds and move forward from there. Who knows she may just be kinkier than you.


I've been seeing this guy online for a while. We want to have cyber-sex. Any tips for an enjoyable first time?


You need to get each other super hot with dirty emails describing what you want to do to him when you see him.


Each email should go one step further in the seduction, that way you are driving him crazy and making him hit the send receive button like a mad man anticipating your next email.


Once you cant take it anymore bring the action to the phone so you can hear how hot you made each other.


I think cyber sex is all about foreplay but the payoff is mutual masturbation over the phone.


I just moved to a new city. How do I break into the dating scene?

 


The easiest and least threatening way to break into the dating scene in a new city is to use online dating.


You can read through profiles and get an idea of what people are all about in your new city.


Also when reading through profiles people will list their favorite hot spots in the city.


Make a list of those of those hot spots and try a few of them out.


Two quick and easy tips to have some immediate fun in your new city!

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