The Foundation Of A Relationship

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The Foundation Of A Relationship
Take a look at everything you see around you today, and ask yourself, “What is the common thing?

Look around you today.

Take a look at all the buildings. Take a look at the cars. Take a look at the houses. Take a look at the streets, look at the highways. Take a look at everything you see around you today, and ask yourself, “What is the common denominator to all of this?”

 

 

It’s called a foundation. Everything that’s built—whether it’s a car, a house, a building—is built from the ground up, one piece at a time. The car cannot run without the drive train and the wheels. The building cannot stand tall in the sky without the base. The house would fall over if not for the frame.

So, how does this relate to your life? I want you to look back today at all your past relationships, and ask yourself, “If I spent more time on the foundation, could those relationships have worked better?” We get so caught up in the beginning of a relationship and how great we’re feeling. We love what we’re feeling. We’re amazed at what we’re feeling.

It’s always about the feeling: that feeling of being loved, the feeling of seeing something for the first time, the feeling great sex. It’s all about feelings. The problem is that when we are so caught up in Feeling Land, we tend to overlook some of the cracks in the foundation that may come up in the future.

Relationships are no different than a building or a company, whatever it might be. Everything needs a solid foundation.

So, the next time you get involved in a relationship—and I’m not telling you not to embrace the feeling, because your feelings are definitely justified—spend more time working on the foundations of love and understanding. Work towards understanding their love language, understanding their needs, wants, and desires, and giving them what they need. This is the building of a foundation.

They need to do the same thing for you, because if not, then the love that you’re building will not last. If we do this right, and we ignore those feelings of lust, then we’ll get a little sense of reason in our heads. Our relationships will stand a much better chance to survive.

A relationship is a building. It’s the park; it’s the house it’s your entire universe. It could be the foundation of so many amazing things that happen to you. So if you’re dating someone now, think about the foundation first, and embrace the feelings, and make sure the foundation is solid.

I want all of you to have a really successful love life. 

This article was originally published at David Wygant for Women . Reprinted with permission.
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David Wygant

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