Ding, ding, ding, ding . . . the sound you want to hear.
How many of you have been involved with men who just can't seem to make a commitment?
You think through the magic of your warm, feminine touch. Through your warm, female understanding …
Through the transformational power of having mind-blowing, rocking sex with you …
You think you're going to get him to commit. How many of you spend 6 months …
Trying to get this man to commit to you?
Chances are the first time you met him he gave you 5 clear warning signs that he wouldn't commit. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. You hear that? Those are the warning bells. You need to be listening. What are those warning signs?
It took at least 2 to 3 cancellations before you actually went out on a date with him. He came up with good excuses..
He said his kid was sick. He had to work late. He wasn't feeling well and he wanted to give you all of his attention. Why all the excuses?
Ding ding ding ding ding.
You’re not high on his priority list. Does he call you or can you only get a hold of him through text? When you call does he pick up? Does he take hours to text you back?
The reason he didn't meet you right away is because he was busy flirting with other women. He was going through the list of other women he’s met recently. He’s ranked each woman reaches out based on how hot he thinks they are.
Finally, when nothing better showed up, he reached out to you. He’d exhausted all the other leads, and you happened to be available. A man that is ready for a commitment is a man that wants to meet you. A man who wants to commit is going to show up.
He’s not going to let a prize slip through his fingers. The playboy on the other hand doesn’t care if he’s kept you waiting.
Ding, ding, ding, ding …
He tells you he's not ready for a relationship right now. That's usually what a commitment-phobic man says. They’re not ready for a relationship right now. He knows in order for him to have sex on a regular basis he needs to throw the line right now in there, because the right now is going to give you that carrot you need.
It's going to allow you to think over your feelings for him. He knows the thought of right now is going to turn in your brain. He knows you’re thinking …
"Right now he says, but he maybe he’ll be ready in 6 months."
Even though he never said if he’d be ready.
Ding, ding, ding, ding …
He pressures you to sleep with him before you’ve made a commitment. He's all warm, lovey dovey, and affectionate. He promises you he only wants to fool around a bit, but then he pushes you and continues the excuses.
He tells you how much he enjoys being with you because that's easy for him to do. It’s what he tells every woman. He tells you all about how he's not ready for anything right now. He keeps the stories going.
He tells you how busy he is at work or with his kids. He tells you how his kids are his priorities…
He’ll say whatever he needs to say to convince you. If you give in you're giving him what he wanted in the first place.
He exposed himself right from the get-go, but you chose to not listen.
It's real easy. If a man that wants to be with you, he's going to make it priority to see you. A man that wants to be with you is going to want to see you more than 1 or 2 nights a week.
A man that wants you is not going to throw right now at you.
He’ll say he’s afraid of intimacy and still try to undress you. He’ll play the ‘wounded man’ card. He's afraid of intimacy, he's afraid of getting hurt again. He wants to take things slow.
He wants to go slowly because he doesn't trust women and he doesn't want a relationship. At the same time he’s kissing you. He’s holding your hand and snuggling up close to you.
The "wounded man" will throw the card out over and over again because he knows it’s affective. Every woman wants to say she was the great change in a man’s life. Every man wants to be the best lay a woman ever had.
It’s how we’re wired.
Here’s how to tell the difference between a real wounded man and the player:
A man who’s truly been hurt, the one who has done the work on himself will look at you and say,
"You know, I've been hurt before in my relationships but I've been doing a lot of work on myself and I'm open to really letting go of all my self doubts. But, I need to go slow."
Ding, ding, ding, ding.
Those are the bells you want to hear. Here’s a hint: if his actions follow his words, he’s a keeper. If he’s saying one thing and doing something else he’s a player.