Do You Suffer From Relationship Expectations?

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Do You Suffer From Relationship Expectations?
Do your relationships have to go according to plan?

So you’re dating someone new.

He’s great.

You think to yourself, “What an awesome man! He seems to be perfect for a wonderful in a relationship.”

And then you start forecasting the relationship. You become a relationship forecaster, where you just want and need something so bad that you forget to remain present.

And what happens? You end up getting disappointed a year later, two years later, whatever it might be.

The number one reason why we don’t get the relationship we want is that we release the forecast our way, instead of allowing it to unfold naturally.

When you meet somebody the very, very first time, by remaining present, you’re going to be able to really learn what that person’s all about.

It’s important to remain present. It’s important for you to realize that by remaining present, it’s going to protect you from getting involved in a fantasy based on needs, wants and desires that the other person can’t even fulfill.

Relationship forecasting: it’s like the 10-day weather forecast—never right. Nor should it be, because you can’t predict something as unpredictable as human behavior.

And that’s what this is all about: it’s about understanding human behavior to its fullest, and being 100% present at all times. When you’re 100% present, you’ll be able to realize every single day whether or not this new person that you met is satisfying your principles for a solid relationship, or not.

You’ll know whether this new man is going to be a man that’s going to be around for the long-term, or the short-term. And by being 100% present, you’ll actually protect yourself from a relationship that never should have happened.

Ladies, this is very important for you to realize.

Stay present.

This article was originally published at David Wygant for Women . Reprinted with permission.
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