After spending the last few months speaking at Universities throughout the Northeast, there is one question that keeps coming up.
What is the best approach and how do I close the deal. Over and over guys at schools have asked this question. This month I decided that I am going to take 3 places on 3 different campuses and show you how to approach, talk and score the digits in under 2 minutes. We will call this approach 2 minute warning.
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There are 5 steps to this approach.
Step one. Find her when she is alone. You stand a greater chance of meeting her when she is alone then when she is with her friends. She will be more receptive to you and there will be no pressure from her friends. Plus when she meets you alone she will be able to talk about you as this great find when she sees her friends.
Observe something about her. What is she doing? What is she wearing? What is she eating? What is she reading? Does she have the same cell phone as you?
Observations lead to conversations plus everything you observe is something that you can talk about.
Now that you have summed her up talk about what you have observed, that is your common ground. Don’t worry about saying the right thing; you need to stop thinking and start talking. Down below I will give you a few examples of conversation starters in different locations.
Listen to what she has to say. Don’t think about what to say next. Listen and she will give you all the clues to what you need to say next. It is called a conversation for a reason. Most guys don’t listen, they get all nervous and the conversation dies. Pay attention to what she has to say, take a deep breath and ask questions. People love to talk about themselves and below I give you a great example of how this works.
If you know you will see her again then tell her that it was great meeting her. That way you will get her thinking about you and the next time you see her you can ask her out. If this is a random meeting in a place that you may not see her again for awhile then you need to set up the next meeting. Tell her that it was great talking with you, maybe we should hang out and grab some food together, or maybe we should hang out and study one night. Keep it simple, be straightforward and she will respond to you.
So let’s look at 3 situations and how to carry this off.
JC at Marists asks.
“I see cute girls all the time in the school cafeteria what do I do”
JC, this is one of the best places to meet. What you need to do is walk right over to the table when she is alone and ask her if you could share the table. After sitting down look at what she is eating and make a comment.
“Is the meat loaf good tonight”
“I have never had the mac and cheese here is it good” Now you need to listen to what she has to say, listen carefully she may say that the mac and cheese is not as good as her moms. The reason you want to listen is that she will give you all the information you need to proceed with the conversation. When she is done ask her why her moms mac and cheese is so good.
The number one problem guys have is that they do not listen. If you listen to what she is saying you will be able to have a conversation with her and if you allow her to talk she will start to relax and feel that you are interested in what she has to say.
Do what most guys have been trained not to do…open your ears and listen to what she has to say.
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