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7 Reasons To Stop Tormenting Your Ex

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7 Reasons To Stop Tormenting Your Ex
An open letter you all you space invaders.

6. You Can't Create A Friendship If There Wasn't Already One: Many space invading ex's will invade an ex's happy relationship space under the guise of "wanting to become friends." This is another very selfish act dressed up as an altruistic one. You can't be friends with all of your ex's. It all comes down to whether you and your ex were friends in the first place. If you were, then you would not be invading their relationship space in this way. You would already be a part of their life.

Your attempt to create this sudden friendship with your ex when it wasn't there before is again nothing more than a selfish act, because a true friend would not want to cause their friend all this stress and pain. A true friend would see that their ex had moved on and has given their heart to someone else, and would not want to do something to directly disrupt that.

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7. You Need To Switch Your Focus: Finally, a bit of advice to all you space invading ex's. Did it ever occur to you that the reason why you all of a sudden feel the urgent need to get your ex back is that you see them feeling the kind of peace, connection and happiness with someone that you wish you had in your own life? You should therefore see this revelation as an opportunity to work on yourself and find for yourself what your ex has found.

Instead of invading your ex's happy relationship space and causing damage to the happiness they are feeling, why not instead take your ex's happiness as the inspiration for you to go out there and find the same kind of happiness for yourself. This is the perfect time to work on yourself so you can find the same kind of true soul connection that your ex has found.

So, to all of you space invading ex's, I hope this open letter has opened your eyes to what kind of impact your space invading is really having on your ex and their relationship. If you are someone who still has feelings for an ex who has moved on and found a truly happy relationship with someone else, then it's time you let them move on and be happy.

It's time that the only space invading you do from here on out is with a joystick and on a vintage arcade game. Stop pining over an ex who is not the right person for you ... and stop torturing that ex you claim to love so much!

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Start working on yourself so you can cultivate a wonderful relationship for you with someone with whom you share a true and deep heart and soul connection. Maybe once you find them, the four of you can meet up at an arcade for a friendly game of Space Invaders...

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