7 Reasons To Stop Tormenting Your Ex

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7 Reasons To Stop Tormenting Your Ex
An open letter you all you space invaders.

2. You Are Not Entitled To A "Review" Of Your Relationship: Here's another thing all you space invading ex's need to remember. You are not an NFL coach. You are not given a relationship red flag that entitles you to demand that your ex review your relationship and give you a chance to "replay the down."

So, just because you decide that you and your ex need to revisit the wisdom of your breakup does not mean that your ex has to agree to participate. If your ex does not want to do it, you cannot (and should not try to) force them.

3. The Real Reason Your Relationship Ended Hasn't Changed: Just because you believe you have changed, and you indeed may have changed, that does not alter the real reason your relationship ended in the first place. Further, just because you believe you are a different person or that "things" are different than when you and your ex were together, that does not mean that the two of you are more compatible now than you were at the time your relationship ended. It is really irrelevant that you have made some miraculous change or turn-around in your own mind, because what ultimately made your relationship not work out with your ex was about something much deeper than that.

What made your relationship not work out the first time was that the two of you at your cores were different people, people whose hearts and souls did not have an ultimate connection. So while you very truly may have made some changes, deep down you are the same person (and so is your ex). You were two people who did not share that ultimate peaceful feeling you have with someone with whom you share a true soul connection.

4. Life Is Not Like A Movie: - So many space invading ex's seem to operate under the delusion that they are starring in their own romantic comedy movie. You know the basic plot line: Boy had girl. Boy loses girl (becoming the "ex"). Ex doesn't think twice about girl he lost until girl finds someone else. Ex has "the epiphany" moment that he loves girl and needs to get her back (thus becoming the "space invading ex"). Space invading ex discovers that girl's new boy is not the good guy that girl believes him to be, and that space invading ex is the right man for her. Space invading ex sets up elaborate plan to crash girl's wedding/relationship and declare his true love to girl. Space invading ex gets girl back in dramatic and romantic wedding-crashing scene. All across movie theaters everywhere, sentimental choruses of "Aw!" can be heard as tear-soaked women frantically search for tissues in their purse. It all seems so romantic!

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