6 Relationship Ending Dating Behaviors

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6 Relationship Ending Dating Behaviors
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3. You Are Not James Bond, So Never Spy On Your Partner You are not a spy, so you should never be spying on your partner. You should never snoop in your partner's private things. That means that you must never look through your partner's drawers, their wallet, their filing cabinet, or their private records (like their bank or credit card statements). Further, there is nothing that justifies snooping. No matter what you have a “hunch” about, snooping through your partner's things is never the way to confirm or deny your hunch. It is an absolute violation of your partner's trust. Your partner's private business and personal records should be kept private unless they give you permission to look at them. Spying on your partner behind their back James Bond style is one of the most deliberate and blatant violations of your partner's trust, and will achieve nothing except to have your partner never trust you to be alone near their things ever again.

4. Beware Of Designating Yourself “Magnum P.I.” Another wrong way some people try to verify suspected bad behavior by their partner is to take on the role of private investigator by attempting to “catch their partner in the act” of doing something. Whether this takes the form of searching for your partner's car by driving by their house, work or gym, or it takes the form of following your partner in your car, this is something you should never do. Even if you believe you have a true “hunch” or “intuition” that your partner is doing something wrong or is hiding something from you, designating yourself as your own private investigator is not only the wrong way to address that, but also frankly smacks of stalker-like behavior. If your partner finds out you've been “tailing them” in your car, they will no longer trust you and will likely end your relationship right there and then.

5. Don't Send Others To Do Your Dirty Work. Don't ever send a friend or anyone else to gather information for you about your partner or to spy on your partner for you. That means, don't send a friend to go hang out where you know or suspect your partner will be. Don't have your friend try to eavesdrop on your partner's conversations in places they go. Don't ask your friends to use their cell phone to snap covert pictures of your partner. All of these not only violate your partner's trust, but also reveal your total lack of trust in your partner. This behavior, if discovered by your partner, will most certainly result in them ending your relationship.

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