4 Ways To Overcome Dating Shyness

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4 Ways To Overcome Dating Shyness
Stop hiding yourself and get out there with these tips!

3. Realize You're Not Being Judged: Do you ever refrain from approaching someone because you are worried about what people around you will think about you? Are you worried that they will think you're strange, or pathetic, or a failure, or that they will make fun of you if you approach a member of the opposite sex? You need to realize that people around you are not talking about you or thinking about you at all. They aren't because they are doing exactly what you are doing, i.e., thinking about themselves and what is going on in their own lives. They may be worrying just like you about their own problems, their own issues and, maybe, about their own shyness. Have you ever been standing in a grocery checkout line next to someone you'd love to talk to but don't because you don't want to be judged by those around you? These people are not judging you. They are thinking about how miserable they are in their job, how they weren't happy with the latte they were served that morning and how long it's taking them to get through that grocery line. The only person judging you on your shyness is you. The only person thinking about the thoughts in your head is you.

4. You Hold The Power To Overcome Your Own Shyness: The truth is that being shy is all

about you and your own thoughts about yourself. It's not about anything or anyone else. The good news about this is that you are not stuck being shy ... you have the power to overcome your shyness. Once you understand this, you then need to decide to take the necessary action to overcome your shyness. You have the power to open your mouth and say hello to anyone. Being shy really means that you are judging yourself. It means that you are judging yourself to be unworthy and incapable of meeting and attracting the opposite sex which is totally untrue. You need to accept your life. You need to accept yourself for who you are and what you're all about, then go out and talk to others with that confidence. When you stop judging yourself, you will no longer feel shy.

Once you understand what being shy really is and how it has been controlling you, you can take control of your mind and your emotions and eliminate it from your life permanently. Don't let a poor mindset hold you back from meeting and connecting with people every day.

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