This is an urgent public broadcast to all females currently using online dating sites in their search for love. If you use Plenty of Fish, Match.com, J Date, or any of the other well-known dating sites, you need to pay attention to what I'm about to say. Recently, I ran a special offer for my subscribers where I would re-write women's dating profiles so they'd attract the kind of quality men they desire.
So, for the last 7 days I've spent hours on all the major dating sites, checking out women's profiles and what I've seen has shocked me. In fact, what I've seen has rocked me to my core. But what I've seen also explains why so many women are frustrated by online dating sites, and why they only seem to meet men interested in stripping on camera or having a booty call.
While looking at all these horrific profiles, I've spotted 4 common mistakes which kill attraction with the right kind of men, and strike an unwanted chord with the very wrong kind of men. Let's look at them now, so you can eliminate them from your profile, and start hearing from emotionally evolved and relationship-ready men.
Mistake #1 Writing An Epic Novel: You know I almost fell asleep reading some of your profiles. It was as if I was reading the works of Shakespeare or something. A dating profile should be short and sweet. There should be just enough information to spark our interest, and make us want to find out more about you. We don't need to know about every tiny detail of your life from high school to now — that's what getting to know you is all about.
Mistake #2 Miss Angry At The World: Wow, there are some angry women out there. I read some dating profiles written by women seriously mad at the male population. I read all about how your last boyfriend cheated on you and broke your heart, I heard all about how he messed you around, and how you’re never standing for it again.
Think about what this tells men about you. It tells me you're still wounded from past relationships. It tells me you have a strong distrust of men, and it tells me you're just waiting for your next man to make a mistake so you can grab his balls and throw them in the nearest food blender! It makes you sound like the angry babysitter that used to scare you as a kid. You were so terrified of doing something wrong you went straight to bed and never made a sound. Believe me, that isn't the kind of woman most men want to date.
Mistake #3 The List Dater: Do you have lists of traits you want in a man? I read profiles from women who wanted a man who was, "Tall, dark, athletic, who was into music, who loved children, who didn't mind busy households, and who MUST like dogs."
When you resume date like that, you turn off a massive number of men. You can't expect guys to sit there ticking off a list to see if they meet all your requirements. That's not how this whole thing works. It makes you sound like you're grocery shopping. "Yes, I need some eggs, milk, some cereal, and some aspirin because all these lists and requirements have given me a headache." Cut the lists!
Mistake #4 The Travel Journalist: I love reading travel brochures when I'm looking for a potential date. I love to travel, but men don't need to see every holiday snap you've taken since high school. One or two photos of your trips is fine, but most the time we can't even see you clearly in these photos. We can see a stunning background and if we squint, we can just about make you out in the distance. Either that, or you're in a group of people so we don't even know which one you are anyway!
Here's the rule of thumb with online dating profile photos: post a couple of RECENT shots that clearly show your face. Ideally, one should show your body type. It might sound shallow but men need to know if there's any initial attraction to you. Don't pretend you're someone you are not, and don't post photos from when you were thirty pounds lighter. All that will happen is he'll find out the truth when he meets you, and you'll have invested a ton of time and effort into something pointless.
Here's the thing — you need to keep it nice and simple on your profile. All we want to know is that you're cool, easy-going, attractive to us, and not some obsessive mad woman. That's it. Your profile is there just to get our interest. After that it's down to how we get on when we start talking on the phone and actually meet. Don't try to oversell yourself in your profile. That isn't what it's for.
So, what have we learned today ladies? Cut out the epic novel and story of how you're looking for a prince to rescue you from life. Stop posting hundreds of old holiday snaps. We want to know what you look like today, not last year. Stop making lists, and stop blaming us for what you're old boyfriends did to you. Avoid those four dating profile howlers and you'll have more interest than you can handle from the kind of quality men you deserve.
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