Avoiding A Breakup: 3 Steps To Saving Your Relationship

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Avoiding A Breakup: 3 Steps To Saving Your Relationship
Can you turn your relationship around before you split for good?

When you met your man for the first time, your heart skipped a beat. He was the most amazing person in the whole world, and you felt like you could be with him for the rest of your life. Now something has changed, and it feels different.

You feel like you're losing him, and your world is turning upside down. All you want to know is what's going wrong, and how can you save your relationship before it's too late?

 

Not much in life hurts more than the end of a relationship with someone you love. Whether it's because one of you has been unfaithful, or because you've just grown apart, the pain of breaking up can be there for a long time after the relationship has ended.

The good news is, some relationships can be saved, especially if at least one of you wants to turn things around. So what's the secret to saving a relationship, and how can you rekindle the passion you once shared together?

There are three key steps you have to take to heal a broken relationship:

1. Find out what's going wrong: Forget about the silly arguments over things like running out of milk, or finding out who left the kitchen light on overnight. Those aren't the real issues. Sure, you might argue about silly everyday things, but that's just a side effect of the bigger problem.

Try to identify where and why things started going wrong for the two of you. Was there an incident? When did things change? What has been going on in your life that could have caused such a rift?

Once you identify what the real problems are, you can start to find solutions to them. 

2. Stop blaming each other: It's not time to bicker or throw mud. If you're serious about saving your relationship, you need to accept there are two of you involved. You need to take responsibility for your part in things not working out.

I don't care if you feel your the victum or your partner is the one who you think caused all the problems. If that's true, think about why they've caused problems.

Are they reacting to something you did? Instead of pointing the finger, think about things that you could have done better in the relationship. Write down a list of things that you feel you haven't done as well as you could have. Then let your partner know you take responsibility as well. So many relationships break down when it becomes all about blame.

Stop throwing mud and take responsibility for your own part in all this.

3. Start dating again: This is the key to making the whole thing work. You have to go back to where you were when you first met. Remember everything in your partner you fell in love with at the start. What did you first notice about them? What was your first date? Remember your first kiss. Remember all the that attracted them to you in the first place.

Then you have to make the time to start dating again. That's right. I want you to imagine it's a clean slate and you're starting out all over again. Go to some of the places you used to go. Do some of the things you loved doing as a couple. Fall in love all over again.

Does this work all the time? Can every relationship be rescued? No they can't. But following these three tips, will give you more than half a chance!

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David Wygant

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