Nothing is more awkward than your 8th grade school dance. Except a first date.
Okay, before I tell you some of the reasons dating will drive you completely crazy, I also want you to remember something I live by. Being single isn't a bad thing. Being single gives you the opportunity to meet someone you've never met in your life. That little statement alone should excite the hell out of you.
You might even run into the person you could spend the rest of your life with. The trouble is, finding someone you really connect with can be like looking for a needle in a haystack. So let's talk about all the things that make dating a pain in the butt. Maybe it will help you negotiate the crazy, whacky world of dating!
1. Swapping Numbers Isn't A Sign He's Interested In You.
That's right. Just because he took your number or gave you his, doesn't mean he wants to see you again. It doesn't even mean he wants to speak to you again. Why would he take your number if he wasn't interested? Most the time it's because he's being polite, doesn't want to let you down on the spot, or because he lost interest during your initial conversation and took your number to get away.
2. First Date Weirdness.
You swapped numbers, you actually set up a date, and now you're meeting. Now it gets interesting and, most the time, very awkward. You want him to like you, he wants you to like him, you don't know anything about each other, you're not sure where he's taking you, you're freaking out you might have to eat in front of him and you're not even sure you're attracted to him.
Then you have to keep the conversation going, which can be a nightmare if you're with a shy guy or a man who is obviously totally terrified of you. Then there's the whole bill splitting thing over dinner. I've said it a million times, going for dinner is a terrible idea on a first date. Avoid it like the plague!
3. Do You Kiss?
You're going home after the first date. You like him, but you're not sure if he likes you. You've both read advice telling you how you should, "Play it cool," so neither of you is actually showing your true feelings.
It's like some weird game of relationship poker. Nobody knows what you're really thinking and that makes saying goodbye awkward. Do you kiss? Do you hug? Do you ask to see him again or leave it for him to make a move? If you kiss him, will he think it's a passport into your underwear? Will he feel rejected if you don't invite him in?
4. The Texting Game.
Now what do you do? Do you text him first? Do you wait for him to text you? Once again, both of you are playing it cool so you don’t know how he really feels. You’re worried you’ll come across as desperate if you text him, so you wait for him to contact you.
Trouble is he doesn't want to seem over eager so he's waiting for you to text him. The result is neither of you text each other so you both assume the date was a dud, and you move on, telling your friends, "I didn't really like him anyway. And his aftershave was horrible." All the while you're crying on the inside because you don't understand why another man "rejected you."
5. Sex Scares You.
You and the guy have finally told each other you're interested in taking things to the next level. You're going to see him again. Now you're wondering when you should have sex with him. If you leave it too long he'll lose interest and cheat, and if you do it too soon he'll think you're a whore and won’t want to commit, right?
Maybe you could go in for some heavy petting and see how that goes? But now you're worried you won’t be able to orgasm. Nobody has ever been able to bring you to orgasm like your first-ever boyfriend, but now he’s living in another state, he's divorced and in a same-sex relationship with your old high school teacher! Yikes.
6. Your Friends All Become Dating Experts.
When you're actively on the dating scene, all your friends suddenly want to give you dating advice about the men you meet. Suddenly all your friends know everything about dating, even though one hasn't had a boyfriend since she was 17, another one hates men, another is in a sexless marriage with a cheating husband, and the other one is jealous and bitter because you have nicer breasts than her. Keep reading...