Five Keys to a Radical Marriage

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Five Keys to a Radical Marriage
Normal is boring. Here's a new paradigm for couples who want to live life to the fullest together.

Happiness vs. Fulfillment

It's fascinating that what made us happy before eventually becomes no longer good enough. This is because there's a difference between "happiness" and "fulfillment." Happiness is transient and what makes you "happy" can change from moment to moment, while "fulfillment" is about meeting deeper needs and is more lasting.

But what are these deeper needs? We need to be loved, and we need to express love. We need comfort and security but we also need variety and excitement. We need meaning and purpose, even if we don't know what that is. We need to grow and evolve, even though change is stressful and challenging. We need rest and relaxation, and we need to be active, busy and productive. Fulfillment seems to demand continuous. conscious, awareness, intention, effort, and learning, and there doesn't seem to be a neat formula that says, "Do THIS and you'll live happily ever after!"

Marriage is a Journey, Not a Destination

With our complex needs and constant evolution it seems that how we walk together is more important than how we sit together. Being willing to take a risk seems to be more important than seeking comfort. Embracing the journey into the unknown seems to be the key to a lasting, fulfilling, "radical" marriage.

So, What is a "Radical Marriage"?

What does a Radical Marriage look like? No-one really knows because this is largely uncharted territory and individual for each couple. You can see glimpses in other couple relationships when they seem incredibly connected and in love, long after their honeymoon. These are the couples that inspire you to think "I want to be like THAT!" Have you ever had that experience? Do you know any couples like that?

When you step into the unknown and view your life and marriage as a constantly evolving adventure, you're always living a bit on the edge, pushing the envelope just a little bit each day. Just like good physical health requires some discipline to eat well and exercise regularly, a radical marriage seems to require continual effort by BOTH partners in these five areas. Keep reading...

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