OH GOD, That is NOT my Date!!!


OH GOD, That is NOT my Date!!!
Has a date showed up appearing nothing like what they portrayed themselves to be? What did you do?

I had as date last night. Her name was Julie (not her real name, of course!) and she found me on a free dating site, OK Cupid. It’s a really great site that’s much more than just a dating site. Check it out if you’re not already a member.

We went back and forth emailing for several weeks; spoke joyfully on the phone Wednesday night for about 90 minutes, and set the date for 5:00 PM after she finished work. I arrived about 15 minutes early and sat on a park bench sunning myself. It was glorious! She arrived 25 minutes later.


Now have you ever been on a date and saw a person approaching and said in your head “Oh GOD I hope that’s not them!?”
Well that describes what I was thinking. Now ladies, before you throw your knives at me, allow me to explain.

This woman talked about how she was a marathon runner. She had run in the NYC Marathon 4 years in a row and was registered for the next one less than 2 months away. Her photos portrayed a woman who was in great shape, cute, with beautiful hair and nice eyes. I run nearly every day. I AM in great shape, and I make no excuses for desiring a woman of like-mind and body. None whatsoever.

So imagine my surprise when along comes a woman, ohhhh let’s say about 30-35 pounds overweight, with arms almost as large as my thighs, and looking 10-15 years older than her online photos.

I was horrified, looked away, and the only thought in my mind was, “run, go, leave right now and do NOT look back!”

I could not. I could not do that to another human being. My cell phone rang just a moment later and I knew it was her. We met shortly after, talked on a bench in the shade (for some reason she didn’t want to sit in the sun, despite the fact that it was chilly and breezy outside) and then walked around the park as I told her stories of my days as a musician (she loves music and asked me to talk about my "playing days").  Strangely though she had no stories of her own as she was “tired from working all week.”

Um, hello? I work too! And I traveled over an hour to get there.

She walked 4 blocks.


The date ended shortly thereafter as it became apparent to her that I had little to no interest.
So I ask you all, has this happened to you? Has someone shown up who clearly was not what they portrayed themselves to be?
How did you handle it, or how would you handle it now?
Do you feel it is rude to just say “hey, y’know I don’t wanna be rude but you don’t appear anything like what you described and I feel cheated and abused? I think I’ll take my leave now.”

I have had quite a few dates over the years where women misrepresented themselves in age, appearance, personality, and other areas and I have never just walked out on them. I don’t think that I ever will, but it has to a small degree soured my feelings on Internet Dating.

Article contributed by
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David "Spike" Osterczy


David "Spike" Osterczy (www.DeMistyfiedDating.com)


Location: Bronx, NY
Credentials: Non-Profit, Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women
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