5 Guaranteed Ways To Lose Your Man

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5 Guaranteed Ways To Lose Your Man
If you're dating and you don't follow these rules, you are truly doomed!

Always accept compliments with grace. The only proper response to any compliment is "thank you." No more, and no less. Never, ever say "Oh that's not true," or "you must be talking about someone else." Never joke about a compliment, just take it, and do not give one back immediately. When you give one right back it waters down the love that someone is attempting to show you.

When a man gives you a compliment, especially in front of friends or family, he is saying in his own way "I really love this woman." Complimenting you is our way of showing how much we appreciate who you are, what you do, and how you treat us. When you deflect it, you may experience him not repeating that behavior again.

 

Now this next one may surprise you. It sure surprised me, but after speaking to many men of different ages it was obvious that this is a challenge for many of us.

Tip #4 to avoid is:

Being too sexually or physically aggressive on a first date.

Really? I mean really? Thinking about this personally I guess it was fine when I was young. However as I age (yeah, 'cause I'm like, y'know, ancient!) I wonder "what is she trying to compensate for?"

I have a very large friend who is a personal trainer. Great guy, good looking, a true "man's man." A ways back I set him up with another friend of mine and got an interesting call after their first date. He didn't want to see her again because she was so sexually aggressive on their initial meeting that it intimidated him!

Now while this behavior won't chase me away personally, it does raise "red flags."

And so we come to our last tip for this segment. I say for this segment because when I wrote the title, I had intended on writing just 5 tips, however I'm at 10 and counting! I guess there might be a part two then, eh?

Another friend of mine has some "goth friends." They dress a little different, act a little different, look a little different, and listen to music that is a little different. They can sometimes be a bit pessimistic and dark in their behaviors. His girlfriend will not even come into his house when they are there and if they show up, she will simply take her leave. It's become a "them or me" situation for him, and my feeling is that she will come out on the short end, at the end of the day.

Tip #5:

You tell him "I hate your Friends/Family."

If they don't, you shouldn't, at least not verbally. And even if they do, you still shouldn't!

Few things will chase a guy away faster than bitching about his friends. I mean after all, your friends are one of the few things in life that you can pick, and if you disapprove of your guy's friends, you are in effect disapproving of him. I know that's a stretch, but try it and see how that works for you!

Now when it comes to family, you're truly treading on thin ice, especially if you're new in his life. The best bet for you is to keep those ill feelings to yourself, even if he is the one bitching about his family. Take the high ground, or better, just listen to him, smile, and tell him it'll all be okay!

Always be yourself ladies, and don't lie about anything. However cater your behavior with humility, class, acceptance, and humor, and you'll attract the same in return.

 

Spike

 

 

 

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David "Spike" Osterczy

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