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Live Into Your Winning Story

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Live Into Your Winning Story
When you live into the story that you truly desire you will attract everything that you really want.

Are you deserving enough to attract love into your life? I mean, are you truly worthy?

Are you confident in whom you are, how you appear, and that you’ll know what to do if love does appear suddenly?

What if you’re not good looking enough?

What if you don’t make enough money, live in a beautiful home, drive an expensive car, or have the education that your prospective lover seeks?


Well I’m here to tell you that none of that really matters. The Universe didn’t stamp you across the head at birth with “worthy” or “winner” just like it didn’t stamp you with “loser” or “unworthy.” It is all a story, the story that you tell yourself every day. But here’s the thing:


YOU decide what your self-worth is in your life.

YOU decide what your attitude and mood is going to be from minute to minute.

YOU decide whether you are worthy of love, or that raise, or a better place to live, and when YOU decide to LIVE INTO the life that you KNOW you deserve, that is when everything will begin to change for you.


If you say that you’re amazing, you are!
If you say that you’re worthy, you are!
If you say that you deserve to be in love with an amazing mate, you do deserve it, and that is the day when the Universe will begin to lay the groundwork for exactly what you seek, what you deeply want, and what you MANIFEST in your quiet, deep moments when you are alone, and thinking about what you desire the most.


But we don’t generally think this way, do we? In fact, if a mighty Redwood Tree were a mere human, it might only grow to eight feet tall because it would not believe that it could actually BE a Mighty Redwood, and thus grow to 300 feet tall and live thousands of years.

It’s funny how we call most animals “dumb” by comparison with humans, but salmon don’t worry about being worthy before swimming upstream to spawn just as squirrels don’t worry if they’re good looking enough to gather nuts to survive the cold, winter months.


So why do we?
And why do you?


Do you realize that no-one’s opinion about you matters but your own? And do you realize that you will never attract the love that you seek if you do not love yourself first? And you will never attract abundance, cooperation, and joy into your life if you do not believe that you can, and more so, that you do!


“Oh sure, it’s easy for you to say Spike, you’re this big published author with followers and friends and stuff.”

Really?

You don’t think I get lonely from time to time? Sure I do, but there’s an old saying that a very wise woman once shared with me “it’s okay to have a pity party sometimes, just don’t stay there too long.”
So yeah, it’s okay, but here’s a little secret that if you follow, and take action along with it, will guarantee you positive results in your life.

Article contributed by
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David Osterczy

Author, Dating Coach, Matchmaker, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, Spiritual Healer, Wellness Coach, YourTango Expert Partner

David "Spike" Osterczy (www.DeMistyfiedDating.com)

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00812FKM2

Location: Bronx, NY
Credentials: Non-Profit, Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women
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